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The Dugout, Issue #005 -- Slumping Self Confidence Getting YOU Down?
April 17, 2009
Table of Contents:
INTRODUCTION TO THIS MONTH'S ISSUE...
"If you fail to plan, you plan to fail."
Issue #5 of The Dugout, Hitting Baseballs from the Neck Up is about acknowledging failure as part of the game, and being able to shrink the game down to ONLY what we can control. There are 4 keys to conquering fear and anxiety, causing slumps to stick to us like La Brea tar babies:
We're going over these plus provide 9 fool-proof solutions to blood sucking confidence killing obstacles. We even draw from invaluable ancient Roman Stoic principals for enlightenment!
ON DECK FOR NEXT MONTH'S THE DUGOUT...
We're going to dive into the magic world of visualization, what it means to your success as a player and how to effectively engage the mind, so the body positively responds.
What do all Hall Of Famers have in common? All have mastered the art of "mental rehearsal," taking "mental reps," or "imagery."
Visualization is a big part of the preparation puzzle piece to building self confidence of steel; In addition, we're going to introduce a short but effective way to meditate...by giving the mind a "mental break," it's free to align with the body towards a common goal, success in the batter's box!
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Let's get started with this month's issue, shall we...
THE ISSUE'S HEART OF THE LINE-UP...
"Choose not to be harmed and you wonít feel harmed. Donít feel harmed and you havenít been."
We revisit this like a broken record, but Ted Williams was right when he said hitting is 90% from the neck up; self confidence is an integral part of that majority percentage. There are 2 parts to regaining lost confidence...
We have to grasp the fact baseball is a game of failure; Hall Of Famers are ones who fail 7 out of 10 times at the plate, OR a pitcher like Cole Hamels, the Phillies World Series MVP in 2008, who won 14 games that season out of 33 total pitched, and 10 of them were losses.
Might I add, the most clutch statistic in baseball, batting average with runners in scoring position (RISP), which finds BIG Papi, Vlad Guerrero, and "Pudge" Rodriguez at the top of the list year-in-year-out, still get out 60-70% of the time in that situation?
Even the best-of-the-best ground, pop, or strike out with ducks on the pond.
So failure is one part, the other is shrinking the game down to what we can manage. There are internal factors, such as making adjustments, goal setting, preparation, and persistence playing important roles in controlling OUR game.
Then, there are external factors at large, such as what our parents, friends, coaches, and teammates are thinking about us at a given moment, the weather, bus drivers losing their way to the stadium, stadium lights going out in the middle of a ball game, and on and on eating away at players' mental fortitude.
The following emotions are constantly under fire from these external factors:
What's the solution?
PAINT A SELF PORTRAIT
The Building Blocks of Self Confidence include:
After answering those questions, what skill, if learned, would compliment those self-assets to the team...learning to drag bunt, sacrifice bunt, efficiently steal bases, D&T method of hitting, switch hit, building a stronger core in the weight room, or taking repetitions at another position?
Part of self evaluation is mastering your craft, diminishing any weaknesses, and making adjustments...or, in other words, making a mistake, learning from it, and moving on.
Success in baseball requires a short attention span, be more like a gnat than a slow moving sloth.
We have to be constantly making ourselves more valuable because if we get stale, or comfortable, we're in a constant state of panic about when the next player will take our position. It's Lord Of The Flies, and you better believe it, you're the main character.
The bottom line with goal setting is...
We have to have them or else we have nowhere to go. If you've run out of milk, then you get in your car and drive to the grocery store to buy some...but if you got an itch to sit in your car with no rhyme or reason, would you go anywhere, no, probably just mindlessly listen to music on your iPod.
Visualization is one of the secrets to separating immortals from the mortals. To consistently do well as a hitter we have to take the mental reps necessary, or else we're just like the rest of the pack. Your brain doesn't know the difference, whether you're taking mental swings or physical ones, it's all the same.
Check out this Swing Smarter article to SUPER learning the swing in 1 week!
Understand that it's okay to fail, and hitting slumps will inevitably happen, all great hitters "cool off," but we have to persevere through the tough times and keep the performance dips to a minimum.
Remember...the harder the course, the more rewarding the triumph. Stay on plan, extraordinary hitting is like retirement, if you're in it for the short run, you'll end up frustrated and broke, but if you're in it to win it for the long haul, then you'll be wealthy over time.
As long as your money's NOT in 401K's!
The bottom line?
If uncertainty of the unknown is the root of fear and anxiety, then the more we become familiar with future situations through key preparation, developing a purpose in goal setting, make needed adjustments, and push through the hard times (slumps), the more we'll trust our body to do what it's suppose to, and confidence will be the reigning champion.
That's not all...
"HARDER THAN A ROCK"
Here are 9 fool-proof hacks to building consistent self confidence of steel:
Now for the bonus round...
BREATHING THROUGH YOUR EYELIDS
Harvesting some ideas from Seneca: Letters from a Stoic, I came across three philosophical principals having a direct impact on a hitter's confidence...you won't find these anywhere in baseball training literature.
If I strike out with the bases loaded, 2 outs in the bottom of the 9th inning, down 1 run, what is the worst thing that can happen to me?
Here comes the Big Bad Wolf (notice my sarcastic tone?),
I'll be subject to big nasty thoughts of all the people around me, I failed in the face of extreme opposition, I lost face and not to mention my manhood, I won't get that scholarship now or get drafted, and [my favorite] I'll now lose that lucrative Reebok deal because of this one lone crummy at-bat.
Sound ridiculous? Precisely. Believe it or not, this is what goes through a hitter's mind (and sometimes worse), but seriously though, is the situation really as bad as we make it out?
Did the above situation cause physical harm? Unless we, upon looking at strike 3 and the catcher's triumphant face, dropped the bat to the ground in shock & disgust, trip over it, and sprain our ankle.
Did the above put you six feet under? Will your friends and family disown you for putting into actions the words, "thanks, just looking?" Is the sun going to come up tomorrow? Will the sky remain blue? Does Britney Spears still walk barefooted into disgusting public gas station restrooms?
The answers are: No, No, Yes, Yes, and Yes.
The great thing about baseball is everyone starts off 0-for at the start of the next game. Whether a good or bad performance in the past, we adjust and move past it. Use the WCS (aka Doomsday Scenario) exercise when feeling pressure or disappointment from a past at-bat.
Turn the Obstacle Upside Down
Consider someone cutting you off in traffic, maybe the situation isn't a pissing contest like most of us would believe, but more of a test of patience and humility? We aren't perfect, and we make the same mistakes, so when an obstacle hits an emotional cord, turn it upside down into an opportunity and analyze how this experience may actually help your character. Looking for silver lining here people!
The 21-Day No Complaining Bracelet Experiment mentioned on the Swing Smarter site is a fantastic one to engage in for this invaluable Stoic principal.
Remember How Small You Are
Like Marcus Aurelias said, "You will return to the earth in ashes, smoke, and dust." He was a founder and big promoter of Stoicism, and preached being humble, consistently using humility, and to be aware you are just a blip on the radar screen of time.
The Bible says, trophies and awards only sit and collect dust, the real reward is in a relationship with God and people.
The bottom line?
By all means be ambitious and have BIG goals, but don't forget your role on earth isn't to just hit home runs, it's to be a light for all teammates and coaches. Strive to be humble and practice humility because as you may read in the news, life is too short...
When your time to be buried comes, it's NOT your polished gleaming trophies people will remember, it's the human relationships you cultivated. We're all just stardust, and our bodies will return to the ownership of the earth someday, so don't forget that.
And keep in mind, humility and humbleness are confidence's best friend: they take pressure off, they show others you're human, and they express a vulnerability people can connect with. Like it said in the movie Gladiator,
"Win the people, and you'll win your freedom."
Without the killing and maiming, of course.
SURPRISE BONUS THOUGHT OF THE DAY...
There are exercises to creating more confidence AND project leadership skills at the same time, here are a few...
Saying "No" to future obligations. When we say yes, we're ultimately saying no to something else, so for one week, say no to all future obligations. Just politely say, "Sorry, I have too much going on right now, maybe next time."
Make people think your time is worth something.
Be the answer to everyone's question. When people ask a question, don't be THAT person who's default answer is "I dunno." Pretty soon they won't be coming to you with their questions anymore. On the other hand, don't make up a bullsh#$ answer either, if you're unsure, then tell them to give you a minute, and either find it by phoning a friend or looking it up on the internet.
Be the purple person people come to for answers. (sorry, just tried to throw you off there;-)
Keep eye contact. When talking to someone, don't avoid their gaze by looking away so much, keep your eyes on theirs, or switch from eye to eye, or on their general face. For the next week, when passing by strangers on the street, keep eye contact until they break it, or pass by. Make sure you mix in a smile, so they don't think you're some sort of weirdo, and if they ask "what are looking at?" answer back, "Sorry, I thought you were someone else."
Be attentive to others, acknowledge their humanly existence.
Don't be so fidgety. While in listening mode, we don't always have to be doing something, sit still when someone is talking. Studies show, the most powerful people in the room, move the least, so when in a conversation with someone, listen attentively and resist movement, with a slightly off-centered body position (less confrontational).
Relax and be calm when hearing other people's stories, even if they're telling the same one for the fifteenth gazillion time in a row.
HEADS UP! CONCERN OF THE MONTH...
It's mid-season now, and school teams are just about on the downhill climb. I've been running into a situation lately with my players, where a proven younger (Frosh/Sophomore in HS) athlete is finding himself sitting the bench while competing position players continue to play even though their numbers show otherwise.
Player politics can be a days worth of conversation, so we're only going to address how to be proactive when dealing with the "politico" coach, because it is a fine line.
Above all, we have to address coach...meaning a non-confrontational one-on-one, something like, "Hey coach, can I talk to you in private for a second? I was wondering what I need to do to get more reps in the game, I mean what can I get better at?" Three rules:
We want this strategic talk to NOT turn into a pissing contest of wits, we want it to be as constructive as possible, and above anything else, we want to get into the coaches' head. What is his rationale by not playing a certain person?
We have to understand, there's always a justification, although sometimes irrational, for what coaches do, so air it out before it starts to bring down your self-confidence.
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